About 10 days ago, at this point, I spent the day with one of my girlies, Lynda and her daughter, Ella, who is our flower girl. Lynda bought Ella her flower girl dress! She is so adorable and this specific dress was something we knew we wanted for a while.

You see, two years ago I was covering a shift at a different location from the coffee shop where I work usually, whilst living in New York. While covering this shift, I befriended a new coworker and ultimately found her on Facebook. I was scrolling through her pictures and found a few where she was tagged in her cousins wedding photo album. I emailed her cousin, saying basically, “hi, I worked with your cousin once at this coffee shop in New York, I am getting married and saw your pictures online. Where did you get your flower girls dresses?”

The cousin emailed me back and said that she accidentally ordered two dresses in white before changing her colors to ivory and thus had two extra white dresses, did I want them. Of course! Lynda offered to pay this cousin for the dresses and for shipping, the woman said no, consider it an early wedding gift. Wow! So nice, right? Too bad Ella is now a size 4 instead of a 2 or 3. Thank you though!!

So we went to a shop in NJ and Lynda bought this beautiful dress,the same one from before just a bigger size, for Ella today.

The next day, Lynda and Polly and I went shopping for Polly’s bridesmaids dress! We were so excited!! She ended up getting the same dress as Lynda, so they will have the same dress, and my sisters, Rachel and Dani, will have the same dress as each other, but different from Lynda and Polly.

On another note, I have a new problem. Chris’s family either doesn’t know or doesn’t care that it’s their responsibility to pay for and host a rehearsal dinner, as a result, we aren’t having a “real” rehearsal. Instead, a little while before the ceremony, the Rabbi and our on-site coordinator are going to go over who walks where and when.

Some bridesmaids are nervous about how and when their turn will occur, I keep trying to reassure them this won’t be a problem. That we will be fine and in capable hands with both the Rabbi and the coordinator. Maybe I should have a meeting with the Rabbi and my girls to appease any concerns?  What do you think?

Also, some bridesmaids significant others are unsure of sitting alone whilst the bridesmaids are standing with me and my groom during the ceremony. To this I said, “grow up…your friends are getting married, this is part of the deal.” Plus, some boyfriends know one another, so they won’t be too “alone” with people they “don’t know.”

And they’re not exactly with my fiancé, so they aren’t groomsmen…maybe they can be ushers? Are they the same things?

Everyone is just nervous and excited, but it’s stressing me out and making me jumpy. Please bridesmaids and their men, calm down. All will be ok; I need support now, not problems. I love you all and thank you for helping me plan and get to this long-awaited wedding.